Are you ready to leave the status quo and the safety of the known?
Are you ready to look at your knotted up places, your pain, clearly in the eye without running? I can ask these questions because they are ones I keep asking myself. I challenge myself on this front, knowing my lifelong tendency to go with what is familiar and with what I think I can control. A further question I ask myself is, “Are you willing to place your trust in the unknown?” I usually pair that with yet another question, “Are you willing to set aside your insistent ideas of an ideal life and see where the great river might take you?”
In The Untethered Soul, The Journey Beyond Yourself, Michael A. Singer says:
“Becoming familiar with this pain is part of your growth. Even though you may not actually like the feelings of inner disturbance, you must be able to sit quietly inside and face them if you want to see where they come from.”
No one likes to experience pain. It’s no wonder that we resist and run. At best, we look for workarounds, thinking that we just don’t have the strength to walk through the fire that may hurt like hell at first, but eventually liberates us from our knotted up places.
Compassion, always compassion.
I’d like to close these reflections with what I believe is the other powerful arrow in our quiver, an equal partner to awareness, and that’s compassion for oneself. We can be incredibly brutal taskmasters with ourselves as long for we believe we should be a better version of ourselves. We can be kind to other people while being anything but loving with ourselves. With rare exceptions, we’re all making our way through and out of a maze of conditioning. We’re waking up. And wrapping one’s arms around oneself, comforting oneself as we began to see ourselves exactly as we are, right now, is essential for healing. Anger at oneself and guilt, especially guilt at being less than perfect, aren’t the answer.
“Guilt is really self-condemnation and self-invalidation of our worth and value as a human being.” —David R. Hawkins
During these trying times, I believe that compassion, not only for each other but especially for ourselves, is essential medicine as we reach for wholeness.